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Originally Posted by 33girl
 No different than not showing up at bid day, or declining a bid at your door/at the student center/wherever you find out who bid you. The result is the same. Stupid people are stupid. |
I'm new to posting here, so I don't want what I'm about to ask to come off as combativie. I truly am curious, and that's it.
On one hand, I see young ladies being referred to as "stupid" for declining a bid to a house they really don't feel they are a good fit for. On the other hand, I have seen threads where PNMs are encouraged to "maximize your options" and "keep an open mind". What is the best route for a PNM, then? Should she keep an open mind all the way through pref and if, after attending pref, she really can't see herself in a certain chapter, not list them on her bid card? What if that means suiciding? Isn't that also frowned upon here? But isn't the PNM who just wants letters also frowned upon? It just seems as though there is conflicting advice. On one hand, don't just want to be in any house for the sake of wanting letters. On the other hand, don't suicide because that's not keeping an open mind. But if you don't suicide and get a bid to a house you don't want, then you're being stupid if you decline it. I'm sure this is confusing to PNMs.
Again, not combative at all; just honestly looking for your take. I rushed in 1996 on campus that wasn't competitive at all so a lot of this is new to me. I am a member of an NPC and have been following this site for quite some time but only recently began posting. I'm also now pursuing membership in Beta Sigma Phi.