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Originally Posted by BetteDavisEyes
We aren't attending a family wedding in 3 weeks for various reasons including it's too far for me to travel due to my pregnancy, the bride & groom told us we were on their B-list & would only be invited if someone on the A-list backed out & finally, we just don't want to go.
I received an email from the bride & groom reminding us that though we weren't attending, they are still registered at 3 different stores so we can choose a gift to send them. WTH!?! Seriously?
Should I go ahead & send a gift? Or say screw you & ignore them? Yes they're family but we see them once every 4-5 years & they did not attend our wedding either.
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You could send them cards and personalized stamps to use for thank you notes, or
http://www.amazon.com/Emily-Posts-Et...0099631&sr=1-1 or
http://www.amazon.com/Amy-Vanderbilt...0098859&sr=8-4 I own the Amy Vanderbilt edition I posted as that was a gift for when I was becoming a young woman (about 13 and my social life changed with going to Bar and Bat Mitzvahs, Confirmations going on visits or trips without my parents and so on), but the Emily Post one I have is out of print but looks quite similar to the newest one.
Yes sending an etiquette book can be seen as rude, passive aggressive, and not the high road but it is possible they have no idea about etiquette and this gives them an opportunity to learn in private. Actually for some couples being given personalized stationary that has their married name printed on it may be a very touching and thoughtful gift, especially as paper is a traditional gift for a first anniversary.
I am also
with KSUViolet and aephialum on informing people they are on a B-List, and wouldn't personally have one, but you sure as hell don't tell people they are on it.