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Originally Posted by als463
I'd like to ask a different question regarding alumnae involvement vs. volunteering. While in college, when my life revolved around greek life, one of my best friends from high school decided she no longer wanted to be my friend because all I ever talked about was the various greek events I attended and the things my sisters and I did, when we were at school. Okay. I can handle that. Whatever.
The other night, I noticed a really close friend of mine, who lives in another state, from the military de-friended me on FB. I texted her to ask her what was going on. Her response? "We are just at different places in our lives." She is currently going back to school for her A.S. and I am working on another graduate degree. She is not working and I have a steady career. Neither one of us is married or has children. I have fulfilled my military commitment and she is still in, until she is able to ETS. I asked her what she meant about that and she responded with, "You're still into your sorority life" (or however she worded it-because it was worded pretty weird). I told her that I am very involved and I won't apologize for that.
Like many of you, I am proud of my GLO. I am very involved and I have been to various conventions and leadership conferences. In fact, someday I'd love to be a collegiate chapter advisor. My sisters have always been there for me and I know that I have friends from different chapters. Like many of you, I see my GLO as a way to stay connected to the some of the most important people in my life. Needless to say, my feelings were hurt.
So, my question is: Is there such a thing as being "too" involved in your GLO?
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From experience, this goes both ways. I did the military, then sorority, and I have many military friends on FB. When they gripe and complain about military politics, I laugh or roll my eyes, depending on what it is they are commenting about. I'm glad I served, but I'm glad I recognized that it wasn't for me long term. For them, they are very pro-military. For me, I'm involved as an alumna for my sorority. I tried to join a VFW, but I wasn't able to find one that had young vets like myself. I needed people to network with. My sorority afforded me that. The military did not.
Though, I do think it's pretty lame to be "defriended" because you're at different points in your lives. I have FB friends that I have hidden from my newsfeed because they make me want to stick a fork in my eye when I read their latest drama....but that doesnt mean I remove them completely from my list.
Back to the original question, though, my alumna chapter doesnt get together very often, but when we do, it's fun. I enjoy volunteering....more on a local level. I volunteer in multiple capacities right now, but I get much more fulfillment out of the positions where I have a more hands on opportunity.