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Originally Posted by 33girl
But here's my question on a deal like the above.
In certain circles where people feel they HAVE to be an ABC, isn't it not just being an ABC, but being an ABC from YZ chapter? And if it's pretty well known that YZ chapter shunned your wannabe self, how are you going to explain that one?
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Okay, two different questions above. Yes, being an ABC from certain chapters carries more weight than being one from other chapters.
However, with the girl that I mentioned... she was from out of state. I don't know the sorority pecking order (yes, I shudder even typing that, but she is from a state well known for that type of nonsense) for the alumnae chapters there. I also don't know if ABC is well regarded in her area, or if she just was considering the reputation of them at TCU. I will say that ABC at TCU did not routinely bid girls from her hometown, so it wasn't like there was a pipeline of those who came before her that she felt the need to keep up with.
She came from a priviledged background, but just not quite that of the girls in ABC, and again, would not have had in-house support. She was a sweet girl, but her insecurities could be sniffed a mile away. Honestly, she could have fit in numerous chapters on our campus, just not in the only one she thought she was good enough for.
I am sickened by what she went through to sneak in the back door, but also feel bad for her as the whole shunning thing would have only served to exacerabate her insecurities. By junior year I was living in our house and planted in the small bldg where all my classes were so I didn't see much of her. Of course, every time I did, she had her ABC tote bag and letters. But none of ABCs, nor many (any?) of the fraternity guys gave her the time of day.
Finally, as for what her hometown thought- who knows? They had to have known that she went bidless twice and that she pledged in their small commuter hometown school. I don't know where she moved after graduation, but I suspect if it was anywhere but back home she could carefully craft her "I am an ABC. I went to TCU" and just gloss over that oh-so-important year in the middle.
Now my curiosity is up for whatever became of her...
ETA: I confess to just doing a search for her on FB. She is back in her hometown.