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Originally Posted by tld221
A question: for those who transfer to another school and attempt to affiliate, and are unsuccessful, your greek life COMPLETELY ends? Like, could you wear letters and attend greek parties? Participate in other greek activities? Would you have to spend the remainder of your UG life explaining to people that "youre an XYZ, but not a State U XYZ?"
Does not affiliating = that chapter not acknowledging you at all? If I had a class with an XYZ there, would she shun me because I wasnt given a bid there? I just wonder what the overall consensus is, socially.
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I have posted this story as a cautionary tale elsewhere on GC, so apologies in advance to those for which it is quite repetitive.
I went to a southern school (TCU) with students that just "had" to be in certain sororities for their bloodlines/communities/etc. There were also just those girls who may have been big fish in their small (non-Texan) pond and saw themselves in only the most elite chapters on campus. A girl on my hall freshman year was one of those.
She came from out-of-state, which was not uncommon, but had her sights set on ONLY one chapter out of the 10 that we had. That one chapter traditionally pledged girls from specific Texas towns that came from a very elite social class. While this girl could have easily gotten a bid from any number of chapters on campus, she wanted no part of them. Once her dream chapter cut her (after 2nd round I think?), she dropped out of rush.
So, sophomore year she rushes again. Announces to anyone who will listen that she is rushing to be in that same chapter. This time she is cut after first round. Therefore, she packs up her bags, transfers back home before school even starts, and goes to the small, commuter school in her town. One guess as to the house that she pledges there. Guess who shows back up on campus junior year sporting her letters and wanting to affiliate? But... the chapter not only voted not to affiliate her, they basically shunned her. She also didn't get many (any?) invites to fraternity parties because the girls in that chapter made sure all the boys knew what she had done and that she was not a part of them since she wore letters every freaking day.
While I have no doubt that she joined an alumnae chapter the day after graduation, and probably has had somewhat of a fulfilling life as an alumna, I have to wonder if she thinks that it was worth it. She basically gave up her entire college Greek Life experience to get her prized letters.