Okay, so maybe the thread title was not exactly what the OP wanted to convey, it wasn't intended that way. Worse crimes have been committed. Let's look at the positive. It did spark an important discussion and here's the thing- some PNM is going to see that title and wanting to know something about the mysterious world of recruitment seek information on how she can improve her chances.Hopefully all PNMs can get this: if you ask a friend to write you a recommendation for sorority recruitment, drop a thank you note. If you ask a stranger to write you a recommendation, make an extra effort to drop a thank you note promptly. It probably won't affect your chances one way or t'other but a cheerful thank you note is appreciated. Always.
One thing that got a little lost in the discussion was remembering that alumnae don't write recs just to help out PNMs. We do it in large part to help our own organizations. When a PNM or her mom or her friend ask you to write a rec, you get a great opportunity to share your sorority experience with that potential member. If you do a good job and leave a lasting positive impression that sorority women are friendly, positive, and selfless people who want women to join not just their specific GLO but all NPCs, you create that ripple effect of good will that spreads from that one PNM to her mom and her sister and her friends. It's a blessing. If the thank you note is a little tardy or maybe never even shows up, let it go. Somehow you did a good deed that will pay off...you'll just have to take it on faith.
