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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog
You didn't want to sound snippy? Mission not accomplished. Passive-aggressiveness IS snippy. Plus, your getting or not getting a thank you note has as much chance of affecting her recruitment as my dog getting on Broadway. Unless you actually no-rec her for not sending a thank-you, in which case, you'd be a total bitch with less social grace than that which you complain about.
People, if you EXPECT a thank-you note and are going to get POed for not receiving one, do everyone involved a favor and refrain from doing favors.
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I've re-read my post, and I disagree that it sounds snippy, but I do think that I mistitled it. Sending a thank-you note will not likely affect a PNM's recruitment, unless (1) their packet got lost en route to the alumna's house and slips through the cracks, in which case the note would alert that alumna to the problem (2) the scenario above, in which an alumna didn't send the rec (which I can't even imagine someone doing).
I do not write recs because I want to receive thank-you notes in the mail. However, just as I expect that I'll receive a thank-you if I give someone a gift or hold the door for someone, I expect that I should receive some thanks (even a post-it attached to her resume) that says "Thank you for your assistance" (or something similar).
I should probably admit that I just finished reading a Miss Manners book. That has probably influenced me!