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Originally Posted by nmarti36
Hey everyone,
I'm not a part of any greek organizations, but my on/off boyfriend of 5 years is and I've been trying really hard to adapt to this change and understand him. It has been very challenging so I figured the best way to go about this would be to talk to those who are in greek organizations.
My boyfriend was hazed as a part of his pledging process. As I understand it, the hazing was mostly in the form of violence or other physical torment. I did not appreciate this but tried to show my support. Since then, something about his demeanor has changed and I can't put my finger on it. I asked him if when the time comes he will condone and/or participate in hazing and he said that he would.
The guy I fell in love with has never been violent. I told him that I understand violence to be an act of hate. He tells me that he doesn't expect me to understand and that "it is what it is". How can I go about handling this and understanding him better? It really is tearing us apart.
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Break up with him. He sounds like an idiot and besides, you have been "on/off" for five years. If you two can't get it together in five years...