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Everyone has dealbreakers. This is why women and men should keep their number of sexual partners to themselves and instead focus on being mentally and physically "clean." Wrap it up, get STD checks, make sure you are not having sex because you feel emotionally deficient without sex. Handle all of that and you won't have to wear your sexual partners on your sleeve. How I feel about that doesn't change whether you have 1 sexual partner or 2,000 sexual partners.
That's why I think it's dumb when couples ask about each other's sexual partners. Men are more likely to ask this of women than the other way around.
Once you release personal information like number of sexual partners to others you are giving others the ability to judge and treat you accordingly. Don't want to be judged and treated a certain way? Give people no choice but to mind their own business. The fictional Samantha Jones gets the same response from me whether it's a woman or a man. That response is "shut up about it already, you're beginning to sound insecure rather than sexually liberated. Don't want people to frown, stop telling us about your sex."
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