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Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

It's less that she says the sororities are all great, and more that she tells saxy to "find what's best for her". If you don't tell a PNM that you want her, how will she know you want her?

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Of course, it's only one snippet of the conversation, but you don't want to be telling a PNM "I hope you make a choice you are happy with" if the other group is telling her "I really hope you choose XYZ".

Ok, this makes more sense. When you originally said this…

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Am I the only one who thinks this is a big FAIL on the part of the rusher?

… I thought you meant that it was a rush infraction.

That being said, I completely agree with angels&angles in this case.

Originally Posted by angels&angles

Eh, from the account given, she said several times that she loves saxywalrus, so I don't think it's an issue. I kind of like that she's not pressuring her. I think this is one of the things I dislike about rush (and obviously this rusher really has issues with rush) -- the pushy salesman approach so many girls take. I really hate pushy salespeople. I think this is one of those situations where the approach will work for some and not others -- it sounds like SW appreciated it, and it made her like Flash more than she expected to.

I think that this is the best approach, especially when you’re friends to begin with. Pressuring (and I use that term loosely) a friend into joining your chapter can be stressful on the PNM. If I was a PNM and my friend was talking to me during Pref, and she kept going on and on about how much she wanted me to join her chapter, I’d feel AWFUL if I had my heart set somewhere else. I might feel like I HAVE to list her chapter first, or I might be afraid that she’ll hate me if I don’t.

And even if the sister wasn’t her friend, what’s the harm in telling someone, “I’d love it if you joined my chapter, but you have to do what’s best for you.”? Isn’t that what it's all about?

Plus, by Pref round, I would assume that the chapter wanted me to be a sister… otherwise, I wouldn’t have made it that far. The pushy salesman approach would be a complete turnoff to me at this point, as I’m sure it would for a lot of other people.

And what’s worse than hearing from a sister, “I’d love for you to be an ABC!” only to find out on bid day that you received a bid from your #2 choice, rather than #1 where you figured you were guaranteed to get a bid, because one girl told you she’d love for you to be her sister?