[CrimsonTide4]

I was just thinking about this some more and I have a question.

WHAT IF SHE CHEATED ON YOU, would you want to know? Would your love for her be strong enough to overcome her act of indiscretion? Do you believe that GOD is a GOD of second chances and restoration?

There is a book called Temptation by Victoria Christopher Murray(DST) that is spiritual fiction that deals with the husband cheating on his wife with her best friend. PROFESSOR, I want you to read it. Maybe God will speak to you and your situation through this book.

I think that you owe it to Constance, your love for her, your love for God, and the MARRIAGE that you hope to have with her to tell her. You owe it to her to have HONESTY in your marriage. If you are afraid that she will leave you, GOOD but give her the chance to talk to God and have GOD lead the both of you in this marriage. Right now you are being selfish IMO and taking the easy way out. I am sure you have told God about this and have looked to him for forgiveness and he has done that. But doesn't the Bible also teach to go to the person who you have wronged and seek their forgiveness as well.

We ALL fall down and with God's help, we get back up again but it is only when we surrender to him. In this case, I really believe that telling Constance is a step in the right direction of getting back up again.

I think you are a good man but you can be a better man by being real with yourself and God.