[LouisaMay]

Wow...my heart goes out to your friend. I pray all goes well.

I would give it a little bit of time, and then as others said, the chapter may be able to advise you. Actually, they may already have some steps in mind. I don't know A Chi O's AI process, but your friend may be able to provide a signature and let others fulfill the more time-consuming elements of her role.

Just continue to be a great friend! If you are loving and supporting this woman in genuine ways, I highly doubt that a grown woman with her mind on her sweet babies will accuse you of 'only loving her for her letters.'

Good luck!