Originally Posted by IrishLake
Did you sign a bid card? If things were THAT bad with those 2 groups, you shouldn't have signed a bid card. If you did sign a bid card, and did not get a bid.... then, well, I don't know. I'd hate to think that perhaps those girls in those 2 groups might have provided what you were looking for, you just didn't realize it at the time.
I did sign a bid card. I had two options left, signed for one. I was beginning to like the sorority even though I didn't at first. I had wanted to see what my pledge class was like before I wrote it off completely, because I know you can fall in love with your pledge class! I did not feel comfortable accepting a bid from the other house, so I did not sign for them. After not receiving a bid from the other house, I was still offered one from this house, but did not feel comfortable accepting.
Like others have said, you have to tell your closest friends in order to get emotional support. What about your family, is that an option? I think any sort of coping/survivors group and/or your campus counseling center is a great idea! Being greek doesn't guaruntee you a support network right away.
I have received support from my family, but there's a certain kind of support you can get from girlfriends, even if it just means having someone to talk to about class, the weather, etc. You know what I mean?
Just because you go to a great school doesn't mean grades were not an issue. Due to your secluded living situation, it is up to you to go out and make friends through other campus involvement opportunities. You've already recognized that you're at a disadvantage, so it's up to you to do something about it. Get involved, girl! Sure, being in a sorority may help, but it's not your only option.
Of course you can still get not-so-good grades at a good school. Not to brag, but for me, grades couldn't have been an issue. I would be very surprised if they were! The thing is, I am involved! I'm in 1 group that meets several times a week, another that meets weekly, and another that I could not continue to participate in this semester because of my medical issue. So, trust me, I've been trying! And those groups are great, and I have friends in each group, but not ones I would feel comfortable calling up for a coffee date or something
How do you know what kind of girls the recolonizing chapter is looking for? What exactly is the stereotype of a new house? I fail to see how that is relevant. You seem a bit hung up on stereotypes... get them out of your mind!
Perhaps I am a little to hung up on stereotypes. I've been trying to ignore them, and have found sisters who defy their stereotypes day after day! But, I guess I'm more concerned with not being as included in the current greek system as a new sorority. I'm not sure if I'm making sense, but It's hard to explain how I feel too. lol And, I have no idea what kind of girls the chapter is looking for. That's what I'm excited/nervous to find out! I will definitely be looking into the colonization of the new chapter more and look new info when it comes up. As hung up on the current sororities I may seem, I am open to new options!
School comes first. Always. If you can't do formal, then so be it. Look at informal in the fall, and look at the recolonizing chapter. You said several times you were "keeping an open mind," when really, you didn't.
Best of luck with all things, regardless of your recruitment outcome.
Thank you for your advice and post. I appreciate your help and take on things!
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