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Once upon a time, someone posted a response to a PNM in a recruitment thread and I wish I'd cut and pasted it into a word document so I could properly cite the source. The gist of the message was:
The chapters know who is a good fit for them. They are very skilled in many ways at selecting new members. The PNMs, conversely, think that they know which chapter(s) they would fit into, based on brief impressions and "tent talk". But, the bottom line is, it is the chapter who knows, and that's one basis for how invitations are issued.
Without going into membership selection, I will share that I remember "falling in love" with PNMs in recruitment and recognizing that they'd be great friends, but not great sisters. There is a difference. And my sisters taught that to me.
Please take care of yourself and your health; and whatever decision you make, I truly hope that you will have a happy ending. We live life forwards and understand it backwards, as a wise person once wrote. And there is a reason for everything that happens, whatever that reason turns out to be.
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"One of the painful things about our time is that those who feel certainty are stupid, and those with any imagination and understanding are filled with doubt and indecision." Bertrand Russell, The Triumph of Stupidity
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