[33girl]

Yeah, I didn't really mean to call him out for dating a youngun - more that I thought he was dating someone his own age and pulling all this out of his butt. Just a word for the future, bro: if there's anything that people could jump on, it's wise to word things as to not leave any doubt. "A female friend of mine who is currently an active collegian" would have sufficed, as that's what she is, and you would have gotten zero shit for that facet of it. Put it on the street, people pick it up. Such is life.

As far as the young lady in question's pledge program - you get out of it what you put into it. If she didn't make an effort to get to know her pledge sisters and the rest of the sorority beyond what you described, didn't attend any events beyond what was required, didn't in effect GET HER MONEY'S WORTH, I'm sorry, but that's her own damn fault. Yes, a lot of these nationally mandated programs suck ass in some areas, but there's nothing the chapter can do about it. When you have 29 pledges who are busting their butts to get to know sisters, to get to know the rest of the Greek community, to attend all the events they can, and doing it without you twisting their arms, why on earth would you bother to twist the arm of #30 who does the bare minimum? If she felt her experience so subpar, she should not have initiated.