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I am borrowing KSUViolet's pen for my answers.

Originally Posted by DeltaZeta09

CONs
- our chapter fines so much I can barely afford it Solution: Don't blow off events or do things to incur a fine!

- My adviser is horrible to me - she has mocked my intelligence, told my sisters to not vote for me when I ran for a position, and tried to get one of my friends to stop talking to me. I have one of the highest GPAs in the house though, and this same adviser will come to me for advice when dealing with recruitment/other events Do the other girls actually listen to her and do what she tells them? How old is this advisor anyway? If you feel that she's being abusive to you, go over her head to your regional person in charge of collegians (whatever you call it) or, if she is a non-sister that the school compels the chapter to have as an advisor, notify the Greek life advisor or student life director.

- There are some girls in our chapter that are so disrespectful and quirky that I am embarassed to be aligned with them. I will never judge a girl on looks, but these girls are not close to being women and barely represent our pillars for our sorority.I don't quite understand how "disrespectful" and "quirky" fit in the same breath, and I looked at your chapter website and they all look like women to me. If your idea of "respectful" or "womanly" means people should look, dress and act like June Cleaver, I suggest you broaden your horizons a little.

- My grades are always close to suffering because it's so time consuming
Part of being in a sorority is learning time management. This isn't the sorority's fault.

- We don't excel during recruitment - we always have to spend extra time recruiting and it takes time away from other activities What are YOU doing personally to alleviate this problem? Do you introduce unaffilated friends to your sisters? Have you asked your HQ or the other chapters in the state to help you?

- There are two girls dropping that I am so close to If they jumped off a building, would you do it? You can still be friends with them even if they drop out.

- I feel very stigmatized in the chapter; pnms literally tell me during recruitment they would not like to come back to our house/tell me they've heard we're weird. When I wear my letters, I try to do so with pride, but it is hard when many other girls on campus will literally sneer at me That is their problem, don't make it yours. If someone said your parents were trashy or nuts or something, you would defend them, wouldn't you? Don't let others' opinions color how you feel if you're having fun and making friendships.

- The chapter I joined was my third to last choice. My Rho Gamma told me that if I didn't join, I probably would never get into a chapter via COBing because she thought all chapters may be at total. I didn't undersatnd anything about greek life, and actually every chapter had spots. The chapter I wanted to be in so badly told me the next day that they had accidently cut me on the third night and they were going to bid me had I waited 24 hours. THIS CHAPTER (the one you wanted to be in so badly that is) IS A BUNCH OF JERKS. If they wanted you that badly, they would have given you a bid in the first place! What they are saying is that "well, you weren't good enough to be our first choice, but we'd come to you after we went through all the other girls on our bid lists." IF that is even the truth.