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Originally Posted by Gretchen W
He's not perfect, but none of us are, but what sticks out to me is that he's 28 (he'll be 29 in two months) and he still lives at home with his parents. He also has a job that pays well enough for him to have his own place. I asked him about getting his own place and he doesn't seem motivated to. He'll tell me that he's saving money etc. I understand it's hard to be on your own sometimes, but whenever I'm over his place, we have no privacy, so we spend most of our time at my place. I live on my own, and it kind of bothers me that he doesn't.
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Originally Posted by Gretchen W
He's been out of school since he was 23, and yes he's got student loans to pay, but I do too, and I live on my own. It frustrates him when I don't want to come over because of his parents. He did have his own place for a few years but he moved back in with his parents because he wanted to save more money for a better place, and he wants to go to grad school eventually. Sometimes I think he puts its off a lot. That bothers me.
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My first question was "Are you dating my man?" This is Chessman to a "T." Only thing different is that he did have his own house for awhile but, after he sold it, he started living with family and now is staying with godparents. Everything else is the same. He has an amazing full time job and just hit a huge promotion and STILL won't find a place of his own. He just passed up the opportunity to move because, and I quote, "I can live here for free." He's not saving up for anything, he just enjoys living rent-free. It bothered me because he is an independent man making more money than I can imagine and still has no desire to take that step. I have lots of ideas about why he won't do it but I'll take him at his word--he's cheap and doesn't want to pay rent. Ok. It may not be a dealbreaker for you, but keep your eyes open for another closely-related issue that is.
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Originally Posted by angels&angles
Thought: How likely is it that, if you and this guy get married, you're going to have to take care of him? He's going to stop living off his parents and start living off of you if you let him.
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Or continue to live off of his parents, leading him to choose them over her. That's an option, too.