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Originally Posted by angels&angles
I would also like to point out that inviting people to events "they can say no to" can still be pressure. There was a girl in my sorority who constantly made pro-life events & invited me to them, even though she knew I was pro-choice. I asked her repeatedly to stop, but she didn't. Sure, it's easy for me to click "reject," but it's still pressure to continually invite me to Bible studies, Bible verse of the day, pro-choice, etc events if you know that I'm not interested.
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I'm actually gonna play just for fun the other side of this. I don't believe inviting somebody to something that you can say no to is pressure. I think it was more disrespectful because you came to this person and they still kept inviting you.
Its a slippery slope sometimes and is more so case to case. I've seen both sides where somebody was not invited because the inviter assumed it would be offensive to the person only to still offend because the person wanted to at least be told about the event so they could decide whether or not they would want to go and whether or not it was offensive. Of course it wasn't so overt like pro-choice rally or I'm gonna save your soul come to Jesus meeting, but if I invite you to play Bingo at my church (I'll provide the denture creme LOL) and you say no, I shouldn't be thinking "Oh no, I hope she didn't think I was pressuring her to become a christian?"
Some things (not this article not exactly the best of examples) should not be filtered through our biases and should still be approached by actually developing a relationship and a bond. If we are truly bonded with our chapter brothers and sisters, it should never be an issue of whether or not a bible study is being held, or the Islamic members have a special place to pray to the east set aside, or the atheist do what they do. We should be bonded enough that if you invite me to your bible study and I politely decline, we still gonna work the work of our org.
Of course I'm talking as somebody from a small diverse chapter, so maybe I'm assuming too much.