[Kevin]

If I was paying dues just to hang out and drink, I'd probably opt to hang out and drink elsewhere for free.

So you have two options the way I see it: Be a force to change your group from within. Recruit your own people, run for office. Change the way business gets done. That'd be a lot of work, but you might at least be able to leave a legacy of sorts. You'd also have the benefit of being an alumnus, which believe me, pays huge dividends. Or at least it does for me as part of a major national fraternity with strong chapters in my state and around the country.

Or you could quit and go about your business.

I don't see how you'd have much success with any middle option between those two. If you want to disaffiliate, that typically involves returning whatever jewelry they gave you and submitting a letter which says something like "I quit. Sincerely, [name]"