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Originally posted by TLAW
Good stuff people, and very well said. I must point out to Lovele that my reference to the 2-yr old had nothing to do with molestation. I was just putting a parallel out there to serve as an argument to say that 14 yr-olds generally think like children. Riley intelligently countered that argument.
I agree, the key is counseling. Ladies, get out there and teach these girls that sex is not a valid measure of their worth. It does take a village. There is too much of an emphasis on sex, and this pressure rubs off on our kids. Somebody watch an hour of BET, or go to our schools to hear convos, or just plain listen to our kids. Riley, I know you feel me!
For those that slip through, we need to take decisive measures to deal with the bastards who take advantage of the kids. I understand that Rra has been doing this for years. That means there probably have been more than a few young girls who have fallen victim to him. There is also talk of the parents being aware that thier daughter was sleeping with Rra. With parents like that, we are almost always going to fail at instilling self-pride in our kids.
Good stuff on this thread, people.
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I definalty feel you on this, but it is not as simple as it seems. As a health educator I DO teach abstinence. If you are not doing anything then you cannot catch anything. You know the repsone I get from these "babies". Everyone keeps saying abstience but no one is listening, so why do people keep saying it. Why do I say it, so you will know that IS an option for you.
The first issuse that needs to be adressed is why are teenagers are so pressed to have sex in the first place. And the answer is simple. Think back to when you were in Junior High or H.S. (it may take a little longer for some
)what were your hormones saying? Did you have a "signficant other" and how much older/ younger were they than you. And here is the kicker, how old were you when you lost "it"? When you answer these questions then you have answered what will work for these girls AND guys. Everyone is saying talk to them and get the families involved, nice but did it work for you?
This R Kelly case is one of the extremes ( not a rarity). 14 and a 34 year old. But what about the 15 and the 18 year-old and the 16 and the 19 year old? If your daughter was 16 and had a 19 year old boyfriend, or your son had the younger girl.....how would you react?