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Many years ago, these were much more common, and were the first step in a serious relationship. Pinning was next, and then getting engaged.
Someone (usually the person who was lavaliered/pinned/engaged) would slip the Pres. a note and ask for a candlelight. The President would stand up in the dining room after dinner, before everyone left, and just say "Candlelight". Of course we all would be very excited.
First time around the circle you pass the candle for friendship. Next time around, for lavalier. Twice around, she was pinned. Third time, everyone got excited cause it meant someone got engaged.
I had one candlelight, at my engagement. My boyfriend/husband was in Sigma Chi, but it was more social with him than anything because he was on the football team and not very involved with his fraternity. So we never got pinned. When I took the candle on the third pass and blew it out, everyone said "Oh my God, it's about time". Ha ha. It was January of my senior year and we got married that June right after we graduated.
And that was how it was done back in the day, kids!
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