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Old 02-25-2011, 05:53 PM
TSteven TSteven is offline
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Originally Posted by ZTA_girl View Post
I have been hooking up with a guy for about 2 months now. From my perspective, what we have is just a "friends with benefits" type of thing.
It seems you already know the answer.

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However, every time we hook up he gets very snuggly and cuddly and lovey-dovey, and he begs me to spend the night with him.
I suspect he “begs” knowing he can get some action if he does so.

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He kisses me on the face when I am asleep.
How do you know? You said you are asleep.

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...cuddles with me all night…
Cold apartment perhaps? It is winter.

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… cooks me breakfast,…
A man has to eat too. Especially after a busy night of “cuddling”.

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… and we have really in-depth conversations about our lives, etc.
Big difference between in-depth conversations about your separate lives etc. versus your life together.

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The thing is, he never contacts me about hooking up -- I am always the one initiating our time together.
Again, you know the reason. He does not need to contact you. Why should he?

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He always responds very eagerly,...
You sound surprised. He is getting unsolicited booty calls and texts.

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...but then he never texts me first.
Why should he? You are already doing all the "work" for him.

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I see him around campus frequently, and I catch him looking at me, but he rarely says hi.
Maybe he is shy. Or perhaps he is not that into you outside of the "hook-up".

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I am trying to figure out if he sees me as more than just a hook-up buddy
Really. If you cannot figure that out, perhaps you should re-read the bolded part of your quotes.

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Any advice?
Enjoy it while you may. Frankly, after two months of a "friendship with benefits” situation, I doubt he is looking change his ways.
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