I was my chapter's ritualist for a while.
We always had some candles on hand, so we used one of those.
Generally, whoever had been lavaliered or pinned or gotten engaged would notify the ritualist directly, or would notify the president who would then notify the ritualist. The ritualist then announced at the start of chapter that there was going to be a candle pass, and she would light the candle and start it off.
I managed to confuse the hell out of my sisters when I had my own candle pass for getting engaged. I was ritualist at the time, so I was both the beginning and the end of the circle. They couldn't figure out if I was engaged or pregnant.
