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We didn't go through any organized counseling, but I think it is critical to discuss point blank details like kids/no kids/how many/when? If one of you gets offered a great job in a far away place, what will you do? What if it's you and not him? How much is an acceptable amount of money to spend without consulting the other? How much debt do you each have right now? Are your parents/siblings/cousins/friends allowed to live with you at some point in the future? For how long? TV in the bedroom or not?
Some of the really important questions can't be anticipated, but while you're wildly in love and utterly tolerant, you should be covering all the uncomfortable questions you can come up with.
I refused to get married in the church (to my mother, not my husband) so we weren't required to go through any of this stuff, but I've heard enough about pre-Cana that I thought we'd go through as many issues as I could come up with. That's the one part that seemed valuable to me.
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