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Oh my dear Lord...

This isn't t-ball where everyone gets a trophy. Greek life isn't perfectly equal everywhere you go. Like everything else in the world, it's better in some places than others. That doesn't mean if you aren't at the very top of that ranking that you or your chapter or your college or whatever we're talking about is terrible, it just is what it is. Most people accept that and make the very best they can of it.

I didn't go to a tier 1 university for my undergrad, and greek life there reflects that. Both the University and greek system there have grown and improved exponentially since I was there, but neither will ever be in the same universe as something that might be considered a pinnacle university/greek system/etc.

That doesn't mean that I, my chapter, my greek system, or my university are or were worthless. It just means we accept where we are on the totem pole & try to make it better.

I'm very familiar with the A&M greek system. VERY clearly my comments were directed at it. It is a VERY unusual place. If you can imagine sororities from a tier 1 university/greek system, the corps filling the role of fraternities from a tier 1 university, and the IFC fraternities being like the ultimate frisbee club... that's about what it's like. A lot of sororities there, both as orgs and individuals, do not associate at all with fraternities or anyone in them. There are notable exceptions, but on average that's how it is there.

Hence, when I tell this girl she might consider putting herself in some social situations where she can network with sorority girls and with guys that have pull with sorority girls, at A&M, most fraternity parties don't fit that bill.

Can we please quit dissecting every word of every sentence trying to find fault where none is intended or exists.