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Originally Posted by honeychile
FWIW, I've never known a couple who went through the pre-Cana class who ended up divorced.
We have 6 meetings with the pastor, the last one about the wedding itself, and I have 2 books to read and discuss with the pastor. This is my fiance's church/pastor, so it's only right that I learn about his church. Fiance has only one book to read, and I really hope it's about budgets and how crazy women become if they feel neglected or poor!
We have PREPARE to take - is that like FOCUS? I answer questions honestly, then answer them how I think Fiance will answer them. He does the same, and they're put on a graph to show you where you have any problem areas.
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<raising hand> Two rounds of pre-Cana, two marriages, two divorces. It only works if people are 1) Completely honest (don't just say what they think their partner wants to hear), 2) Take it seriously and 3) if the results are taken seriously by both partners and the priest. For example, if it flags a high risk of abuse in a relationship, the bride to be should not just be told "You're too sensitive, relax, laugh a little, he's just joking around" and made to feel like she's crazy for feeling hurt by his emotional abuse.