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Originally Posted by DTD Alum
Perhaps the problem was that you spent most of the time asking them about what they liked about the fraternity, their pledge process, etc. While those are good questions to ask, it really shines no light on how you get along with them. The rushees we loved always bonded with us talking about something that interested the brothers...sports, politics, music, business, girls, movies, whatever.
At the end of the day, instead of trying to find excuses, it could just be because you didn't get along with the brothers and didn't have a lot in common with them. If all you did was talk about their process, you really have no legitimate gauge on if you have anything in common with them.
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That's true. It could just be that overall, I kind of thought that I had a lot in common when in reality, there were not that much things in common. I mean, I guess it was somewhat hard for me to gauge what they really liked and tune into it. I mean besides video games and some TV shows, I didn't get to use some of what I like in common. I could have easily brought up what I liked, but I kind of took a more passive, jump into the conversation look, than a "hey this is what I like" in certain situations.
@angels&angles The same rules that apply to acceptance applies to rejectance.
Once again, thanks for the info and advice. I'll mull it over, but it seems like if I'm going to join a GLO, I need to find something that's more to my style. However, I wanted to use one of the Fraternities to explore a more balanced style and I don't think I can directly achieve it by just saying "Hey, you guys look cool, maybe I should join you" approach.