[33girl]

It's hard to know where to draw the line between "giving a chapter a chance" and "pushing it down throats." So,so, so much depends on the individual.

As has been said on here before, if women don't keep truly open minds and look past things like size (chapter's and individual's), it's hard to feel too sorry for them. Some chapters can put it all out on the table, and say "yeah, we have 50 members and everyone else has 130. So effing what, we are awesome." But that's the exception rather than norm. If you've suffered through years of pressure from your HQ, your school, and sometimes your alumnae regarding numbers, it just gets to the point where you're beat down and rush is more holding your breath till it's over (and you fail again, whatever, at least it's over) than a happy time to welcome new sisters to be.