It is so difficult being a non-greek woman dating a greek man. You have to compete with the women, their frats,and their lifetime commitment the their fraternity. I have dated a member of Alpha Phi Alpha and am currently dating a member of Omega Psi Phi. Everything was fine with the first boyfriend, at first. It became a problem when I could barely get in touch with him and when I'd call him on it all he'd have to say was that I got some Alpha business to attend to or my frat needs me. I understood his commitment, but, what about me? I understood that he was an Alpha before me and he will be an Alpha after me. But, it became ridiculous. He even had the audacity to tell me that when he went to their convention, some of their "sweethearts" offered themselves to him. He says that the only reason he declined was because me and him were together. The bottom line is that his priorities were messed up. If he needed anything within reason and I could help, like the good woman that I am, I helped my man out. His frats were not there when he really needed them, I was. Now, this new relationship is a completely different story. My current man is a Que. They are predispositioned to be wild, crazy, sexual, the bad-boy type and most women love it. He's a neophyte and he's on another campus in the same city that I'm in, so, it was a lot to swallow. He's pretty mature, but, still, we'll have to see what's going to happen. It's only been about 4 months, so, it's hard to tell.
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Be true to yourself and the rest will fall into place......
[This message has been edited by Intensify (edited April 24, 2001).]
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