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Originally posted by TrueGreekLove:
For those of you that have dated greek men, do you find them to be any different than men who are non-greek? Is it different to date a greek man if you are greek yourself versus being a non greek dating a greek man? What are the pros and cons? I am just asking because generally I have found greek men to be very immature...and then there have been those that do a 360 on you after becoming greek and discovering that there are fraternity groupies out there...they are a completely different person after they cross!
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As a Greek man, let me share a few thoughts.
1. I think men are men, there are all types inside and outside of Greek life.
2. I think it depends somewhat on which Fraternity a man belongs to. There may exist differences between BGLO's and other Fraternities; there may be differences between different BGLO's; and differences on different campuses. At my school, the Kappa's had a reputation for being ladies men who ran through many women. Of course all did not do this, but this was the reputation...it affected who pledged and what the social activities were. IMO.
3. Greek life does provide temptation. On my campus, Greeks held leadership positions. Further, we (Alphas)developed our own female auxilliaries. Not to mention that our frat was closely aligned with AKA's. Anyway, lots of women would approach us with all sorts of distractions. Anyway it becomes a test of character that brothers respond to in many ways. Some resist, some dabble, some completely lose their minds. But I think of it as a personal challenge that individuals respond to in different ways; it's not really a Greek thing.
4. Some brothers are immature, some are just dogs. Again, that's not a Greek thing.
5. The 360 is also a challenge. Some folks pledge with the full intention of doing a 360. Others change due to increased responsibility and dedication to fraternal ideals.
6. It is different when Greeks date Greeks,mostly in terms of they understand a lot about the commitments of Greek life (and I'm talking about BGLO's, I don't know much about how it is with others). Most BGLO's have some commitment to scholarship and community service. Combined with the social activities, they get to be pretty close knit groups. Some are reluctant to share or explain details of their organizational activities to independents.
Still, most folks are not Greek. So I think everyone should try to explore relationships with people they like, and not worry about the Greek thing so much. There are some bad apples, but I don't think that immaturity,360 syndrome, and submission to groupies is a Greek thing.