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Originally Posted by SC2013
Did I behave immaturely by not going to bid night, or was I justified in feeling like I had been guaranteed a bid to a house I didn't feel a connection with? Thoughts?
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Do you really want GCers to answer this? Are you trying to second guess yourself?
All we know about your place on Joan's list is that it was not high enough. However, if it makes you feel better, they would have been excited to have you as a sister, since it is possible that any PNM on a chapter's list can match.
Did you behave immaturely? I wouldnt say
immature, since this is pretty common behavior for 18-19 year olds. Though not immature, I would say it was ill-advised.
Did you feel "tricked" or "forced" into ranking Peggy? Of course, Panhellenic wants every PNM to maximize her options so they can place every PNM and every chapter makes quota. The whole "ranking your second choice helps you get your first choice" is technically true in some cases, but misleading. Maximizing makes you eligible to be a quota addition, which means that you're more likely to get your first choice if you're too low on BOTH lists. Though, I am assuming that Peggy didn't make quota, so being a Joan QA wouldn't happen. I don't like to see PNMs rank chapters where they would just decline on the spot. It only inflates quota and creates false hope for chapters who matched quota, but only have a fraction of those show up on bid day.
I do think you should have gone to bid day. When you're bound for a year (and especially since you're a sophomore and it's your last decent shot at going Greek), why not try to find your place in that chapter? It doesn't matter if you decline on bid day or if you drop out right before initiation, you're still bound until Fall '11.
I am confused as to why you didn't go to bid day since
you said you would have been open to visiting Peggy again via COB or spring informal recruitment....you could have actually experienced the chapter as a new member instead of in a recruitment setting and that could have made all the difference in the world.
Despite not giving Peggy another chance, I am glad that you moved on and found your niche.