Jen, I wear hard gas permeable contacts so I feel your pain with eye shadows.
You might want to try a good eye shadow base or cream base before putting on powder eye shadow. Use a neutral color that matches your skin. I use Mac Paint
http://www.maccosmetics.com/product/...nts/index.tmpl.
I have also used Mac Paint Pot
http://www.maccosmetics.com/product/...Pot/index.tmpl. Benefit
http://sephora.com/browse/product.jh...ategoryId=5333, Smashbox and Bobbi Brown
http://www.bobbibrowncosmetics.com/t...T_ID=PROD10190. They all work really well.
I love MAC eye shadows.
Also Smashbox is really good.
If you need a good neutral multitasker, get the Bobbi Brown Shimmer Brick in Bronze
http://www.bobbibrowncosmetics.com/t...CT_ID=PROD1315.
It doubles as a neutral eye palette and bronzer.
As for Mary Kay, I have no respect for their products. I refuse to consider any sort of MLM scheme, let alone one that has high pressure sales tactics, lacks professionally trained make-up artists and aestheticians.
See Pink Truth for more;
http://www.pinktruth.com/