Well, I have been with my guy for 3.5 years and about a year after we were dating, he pledged A-Phi-A. To answer the question, greek or Non-Greek, men are men! My man is wonderful and remained that way after he crossed, but I agree with others, they do sometimes change. The time issue wasn't bad for us because I am involved in a non-NPHC organization and several clubs, so I could respect the time. I must say, being with a Greek is like having an "extended family", like some big brothers to look out for you. This may sound silly, but bonds that are shared between other girlfriends of his brothers are precious and I would not trade it for the world. Matter-of-fact, most of my closet friends are dating Alphas and we entertained one another when our Alpha men are out handling business.