I'll try to keep this short. When I was finishing up my last year at the University of Minnesota, there was a coffee shop (Nina's) that I used to go to where I would study. I actually had been going there for about a year. That was also his favorite spot, but we never saw each other. And I know at one time or another we were there at the same time, we just didn't notice each other. We became e-mail buddies, until one weekend he told me he was coming to visit his parents. So, we agreed to meet up at Nina's (I also brought two of my friends with me, just incase). So, we all talked for a few hours, ate, had coffee, etc. Long before I met him/talked to him/e-mailed him, I applied to the vet schools I wanted to attend. I got accepted to my first choice, which happened to be in the same state where he lives, just over an hour away. I didn't know anyone in Michigan, so we hung out a lot during that summer. Although, I thought he was really, really hot, I never pursued him in that way. We were just friends for the longest, I just thought he was a really fun person to be around. I don't think we ever really had an actual "first date" because we never hung out in that way. Eventually, one thing led to another, and we've been together ever since.
I would say he was the one who pursued me. He disagrees, but I think it was because I told him about this guy who asked me out on a date. That's when he started moving a little faster.
So, he was the "aggressor".