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Originally Posted by rxavier
I called my mom this morning who patiently reassured me that I was "chosen for a reason". As I truly believe I was myself during rush, this means that they chose me for me.
I just want to skip past this high intensity phase and into the bridesmaids-at-my-wedding part. Guess it's not that easy, huh? "In due time," my mom says.
My friends also told me that bid week is not a good representation of what the remainder of sorority life is like, especially as a NM. It's much more mellow than paired parties or hyped up get togethers all night, every night of the week.
I'm missing the first party tonight because I have to work which I'm not happy about but I'm hoping that I won't miss too much bonding.
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They're right. For many new members the first few weeks are so novel and exciting they go a little overboard (for my tastes, anyway) with how much they "love" each other, with gifts, with calling everyone their new BFF, etc. Once that phase ends and everyone settles into the routine, the entire experience is more mellow. Pay attention to the actives. You'll notice (especially with juniors and seniors) that though they're excited about your new pledge class, they're much more laid back around each other.
I can tell you I wasn't particularly close to my sis-mom (who left the semester after I pledged anyway), wasn't particularly close to my pledge class as a group, and didn't have many close friends in the sorority during my entire time as an active. I'm not a hugs-and-kisses type person, I don't tell people I love them when I don't, and I've never had a "OMGURMYBFF". I can also tell you my experience as an active was amazing. Aside from everything I learned (and I absolutely learned lessons I badly needed about leadership, being diplomatic, and time management to name just a few) I had a great time. I hung out with people that were BFF with each other all the time, and the thing is
it was fun. Take it slow and remember this new member period isn't what the next three and a half years will be like, and that after your years as an active are over you'll have the rest of your life to enjoy your sorority, too.
ETA: I didn't reciprocate with the OMGILOVEYOUSOMUCH stuff...ever. Because it makes me cringe. And my pledge class didn't interpret it as cold, they just assumed I wasn't emotional which was correct. If that's not you, don't say it/do it. Just be yourself and express a genuine interest in getting to know your sisters in a way that's appropriate for you...that's all you need to do.