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Originally Posted by Kevin
Pardon the lane swerve, but let me try an analogy on you.
Think of your sorority as a marriage. Getting married typically involves a pretty elaborate ceremony and party. The bride and groom (mostly bride) are showered with attention and gifts. That day is all about them. Their parents shell out tens, if not hundreds of thousands of dollars making sure everything is perfect. They go on a honeymoon to some exotic beach or to stay at various fine European hotels.
Then they get back to their apartment, student loan payments, bills, life. Folks in their first marriages often end up with unreasonable expectations about what married life is like. Just like membership in your sorority, marriage is about hard work, trust and commitment, not being given attention and pandered to by others.
You have been selected. Congratulations, now the work begins. Your relationships with your sisters, like any other relationship are going to take work. Wearing the same letters and colors will get you a ways down the road, but it won't get you where you want to ultimately be. Don't expect to be catered to. Make friends. If people aren't asking you to do stuff with them, ask others to do stuff with you.
Your experience in your organization will be what you make of it. Don't come in with the expectation of being catered to.
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I agree with your analogy completely and it may not have come off in my posts, but I wasn't expecting to have my friendships prepackaged. I guess what my overall concern is that because it seems that a lot of the girls are putting pressure on themselves to become BFFs in a week, I am wondering/worried if/that I'll be considered cold or aloof if I don't reciprocate that "OMGILOVEYOUSOMUCHANDIDONTEVENKNOWYOURNAME" feeling.