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Originally Posted by rxavier

I'm not sure if this is where I'd post this, but...

I was ecstatic to receive a bid from my house three nights ago. But when I met everyone for the first time, I felt--and still feel--so overwhelmed that I felt like I couldn't really enjoy myself. I feel like I don't fit in with my pledge class (or the rest of my house for that matter) and that they made a mistake. I feel awkward around everyone and it seems like everyone has already gotten so close. Girls text each other constantly throughout the day. My bid buddy and I don't seem to click as well as she does with my twin, making me feel even more insecure. Conversations don't necessarily flow like I thought they would and I don't really feel close to anyone yet.

I look around the room and all these girls are so perky and attractive -- I feel so out of place.

I don't mean to be all anxious but I just want to ask if this is how anyone else felt when they became a new member. I really hope this is temporary.

Yes, it's normal.

Relax. You have only been a new member for THREE days. These women are not going to be your BFFs instantly.

It takes time to feel comfortable with ANY new group (whether it's a sorority, new school, new softball team, etc.)

Typically, as you get to know people (through attending events and such), you'll feel more comfortable.