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Originally Posted by turqwind
Almost twenty years ago, I went to celebrate bid night with the chapter I had previously been general advisor for. One of the new members had a six-monthish little boy with her which I assumed was little brother/nephew (?). After the celebration, there was a meeting and half of the chapter members were up in arms about this girl with a baby. I was not the advisor any longer, but the new advisor didn't know what to do. I told them they had pledged this girl and to get over it. Whatever personal convictions you have, it was not fair to punish/kick her out for something they should have resolved before offering her a bid.
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But I'm surmising from your story that the chapter members had no clue that the baby existed before they gave her a bid. I don't blame them for being p.o.'ed in that case.
I know that we often say to people "you don't need to mention x, y or z" at rush, as it might lessen their chances of getting a bid, but honestly if you're married or have a baby, those are BIG things and better to be straight about it. If the chapter has a problem with it, they can cut you. Better for that to happen than for people to be upset, like in the above story - and I'm betting they were just as if not more upset about being deceived (by omission, true, but the end result is the same) than about the baby itself.