From my experience, (duh, who else's experience would I be talking about) yes, it is different being greek and dating a man/woman who is greek as opposed to being a non-greek dating a greek. There are a lot of responsibilities that come with being greek that a non-greek may not understand or even like.
I remember one of the boyfriends I had who was not greek. We used to fight constantly about why I was doing so much with my Sorors, and I'm not talking about general hanging out and partying. He was trippin over the committe meetings and chapter meetings that I had to go to. Either he didn't understand or he was flat out jealous (he wanted to be greek but didn't have the grades). I also found it interesting that when I wasn't doing anything with the Sorors, he was always out with his friends and they would come to me saying how he was complaining that we didn't spend enough time together. It wasn't like he didn't know well in advance that I'd be in a meeting.
As for the groupies, it's up to the member to keep them in check. If you know you have a boyfriend or girlfriend (yes, sororities have groupies too) it's your responsibility to control yourself around them and make them aware the you're in a relationship and you're not going to have any foolishness.
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Kelli
12-DN-94
SSU c/o 1997
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