Korkscru, to answer your first question, I'd rather be a murderer than a molestor. It sad to say but our society is so violent as it is one would be more likely to be forgiven for such a crime. Now molestation is something different. As you've stated it's considered taboo to do such a thing. I wouldn't dream of doing either regardless but if I had to choose it would be murder.
As far as who set R. Kelly up, I don't know.
It very well could be one of his friends. If it was one of his friends how did they find the tapes. I would hope that he wouldn't brag about such a thing to his friends but hey, you never know.
As we continue to discuss the matter, I feel more and more sorry for R. Kelly. I'm not condoning his actions by any means. but he's being judge by his peers, his fans, and the courts when the only judge should be our Creator.
God help him, is all I can say.