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Originally Posted by agzg
Also, what are you doing for "sisterhoods"? Is it a lot of pressure, like a planned event where people are actually doing something? Or is it something like "go to Sarah's house and watch [insert cool tv show here] every week"?
If you're doing more planned, structured events (usually these require acquiring materials/leaving campus), try doing some deconstructed events like hanging out and watching movies in someone's living room. Also, don't make attendance mandatory. Just make it on a day when there's not a lot going on. ETA: I should note that by not making attendance mandatory you're going to have low attendance for at least the first few weeks, but if a small number of sisters get together and are having fun, word will spread. Just make sure everyone in the chapter knows they're welcome and even wanted there. If you're having trouble getting anyone to show for too long, try a different tv show, or a different hangout deal. It could be anything from going to the campus gym together to cooking a big spaghetti dinner once a week to playing video games, as long as it doesn't require too much effort and is fun for most everybody.
ETA2: If sisterhood is pretty strong in a chapter, these things kindof start to happen naturally, because they're things you just do on a random weeknight with your friends. Once it starts feeling natural and stops feeling forced you'll be in pretty good shape.  |
Going off of the tv idea.. one year, our Social Chair had everyone in the chapter write down any tv shows they consistently watched every week, and also had everyone write down their favorite movies. The complete list of everyone's favorites was then distributed to all of the sisters at the next meeting. Girls could volunteer to have tv/movie nights at their house, depending on which show they liked, and the level of interest by the rest of the chapter. The biggest event was always the Grey's Anatomy night, and the same girls hosted it every week. A good number of the sisters who attended were the same each week, while some others attended periodically, and a few others came once or twice out of curiosity, or just to hang out.
Other girls would look at the list and find movie interests they had in common with other sisters, and they'd get really excited when someone else liked the same obscure movie they did.. and they'd plan a movie night.
All it took was a list of tv shows and movies, and suddenly everyone was making their own plans to hang out with each other.