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Originally Posted by chocoholic1113
Another thing I want to put out there... this sorority was not my first choice during rush as I came with some preconceived notions, but towards the end I fell in love and I loved it!! Even though things aren't great now, should I still keep trust in the rush process that I ended up in the right place? Would anyone agree that where formal rushing places you is almost always the best place even if you didn't see it yourself at first?
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Gosh, I think you are thinking too much. It's possible, you know, to overthink things and analyze and next thing you know you've made yourself crazy with second-guessing and worry and so on.
We all have cycles of emotional intensity and attachment and involvement. It's part of life, actually.
I had a long conversation with an active this Fall who finally admitted that she didn't feel attached to the chapter/her sisters/etc. This explained her challenging behavior. I asked her "who moved? you, or them?" This was meant to get her to look at the circumstances/facts of her situation; she increased her work hours to 30 hours/week, moved out of the chapter, and was NEVER around, had an absentee boyfriend, plus academic obligations. She did not make her membership a priority, and it showed.
It's trite, but true that "you get what you give". Please give your chapter some time and effort and energy before you call it quits. I can't tell you how many times I've heard a woman express regret after resigning her membership.