To me, it's not really disrespectful. To our Executive Council, it was.

But I can totally understand what you're saying. You're not overreacting at all!

The semester I 'pledged' AGD, the Social Chair wanted to have a Pimp and Hoez party...the idea was nixed by EC...and b/c Risk Management was not approved, we ended up having it as an unofficial party at someone's house. While the majority in attendance were people of Greek affiliation, people ended up bringing guests along. Everyone understood that it was not affiliated with AGD in any way, and whoever wanted to come, came. Whoever was uncomfortable with the idea didn't have to attend, so everyone was happy with the end result.

Personally, I had fun because it was neat seeing everyone and their costumes (because to me, it really was a costume party).