[33girl]

I don't think rush is more complex than it was back then - just that the rules are being followed more stringently. In the 80s Greek life was huge and popular and there were more than enough PNMs to go around - at ALL schools. So no one was going to bitch if a group was paying more attention to a PNM than they should, or something of the like. Then in the 90s it swung the other way - Greek life was no longer the "in" thing to do and chapters started dropping off membership wise and closing left and right. This is when they really started cracking down on things like bid promising and pre-rush contact. The national groups realized some of the things that Chapter A did at UT were hurting Chapter B at LSU. Hypocritical? Of course. But that's basically what happened.

It also costs a lot more to run a national group today - in terms of services, housing, and risk management insurance.

So that's where some of the moms don't get it. Yes, I know you got away with it then. You can't now.

There was a mom on here who was from one of the smaller national groups and went to a small school and whose daughter went to Arizona or someplace like that. She couldn't understand why DD didn't get a bid. As different as her school and her daughter's school were, I don't know why on earth she assumed rush would be the same. That's the other kind of cluelessness.

I know that most parents, if they're told "hey, you need to not talk in such detail about Lindsay's rush" will follow that directive. I guess what a lot of people don't get is what's going on in a parent's head - a parent who hasn't grown up with the internet - that compels them to have the idea to share this with the entire world at all.