While my parents were married at a younger age than I was (they were in their mid-20s), I think that they married due to a couple of things. They were both born and raised in the same town that they have decided to live the rest of their lives in and they were already putting down roots at the tender age of 20. I know that they were both in a more "adult" state than I was in their mid-20s. They were in a long-term relationship for years, while I was in grad school in another country, not sure where I eventually wanted to end up.
That being said, when I was in undergrad, I was in a 4-year-long relationship myself. I thought I was going to marry him. But, at the end of my senior year, I saw an opportunity for grad school that I just couldn't pass up, and now when I look back, I know that I changed a lot between college and when I was 28-29. I changed through jobs in the "real world", living on my own, and having other "adult" relationships. I'm married to someone else that I couldn't imagine being without, but then again, my parents are still married to each other as well. So even though we had totally different circumstances, we're all ending up happy so far. So I don't think there's necessarily a "right" age for this. All that I DO know is that no matter how much you may love a person, if there is something that you feel like you NEED to accomplish in your life that you may need a bit of freedom to do so, then you will more than likely have a tougher go of marriage if you get married before you accomplish said goal.
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