Alright, so here's what's been going on.
Everything is clear and out in the open with my entire chapter. I've decided not to go through with initiation. Everyone seems understand the difficult situation I've been placed in - and they do genuinely seem to agree that every chapter is very different, like you were talking about 33girl. There are a few people who seem a little sore about it, but that makes sense and I know that everything going on has really stressed me out as well.
I'm still nervous about having to rush again, but I'm pretty sure that I'm making the right choice for me. However, now I have a new concern! Nationals told my chapter advisor and chapter president that I will NOT be allowed to rush for a full year since I accepted my bid. The chapter president and my big have both told me this means
any sorority on any campus, even the school I'm transferring to. I was under the impression that the bid acceptance was only binding for a year on
this campus. So what gives? Did they misunderstand? It sounded to me like Nationals may have meant I can't rush
their specific sorority for a year.
The schools are in the same state -I don't know if that matters. Can someone clarify for me?
UPDATE - so I found this thread here that cites the NPC Green Book:
http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=116610
It seems to me that someone along the line made a mistake with the information they're giving me, then. Any ideas why Nationals would tell them I can't rush? I don't get how something like this could get so confusing when it's spelled out so clearly?