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Originally Posted by texaslonghorn03
I am lost as to what I should do right now. I go to a very large southern university (as I'm sure you can tell from my username  ) and it's a great school but I feel like it's so hard to find my place. I have rushed not once, but twice, and both times I was dropped from recruitment. I have friends in every chapter, and know about half the girls in a specific chapter, but it still didn't work out. I have heard from multiple people that girls just fall through the cracks here because there are sooooo many people that go through rush, but it still hurts.
Greek life is something that I so strongly wanted to be a part of, and even most of my guy friends are greek, and I always get teased for being GDI. But I feel like these are the kind of people that I most closely identify with, and I just don't understand it.
So my point to all this is, along with other factors because I go to such a massive university, I have had trouble finding my group of people. I mean I have plenty of friends, but they all have their organizations (mainly GLOs) that they ALSO have, and I can't help but be jealous and feel left out. I am very strongly considering transferring to a smaller school where I can be more involved in the school community, and most likely get a bid.
I just don't know if that is a stupid idea or not, I feel kind of dumb for factoring greek life into my transfer decision, but I can't help it. I just want to hear some insight from posters on here, so let me know what yall think please! |
It seems like Greek life (which, according to you, in the only way to find your place on your campus) is the only reason you have for transferring. Many people have happy, fulfilling lives on campus without being Greek. That being said, I understand that it can hurt not to get what you really want.
I can tell you that transferring to a smaller school with a less competitive Greek life does not engender you to "most likely get a bid". Your chances might be even lower because you will be an upperclassman, won't know many people, etc.
If you have had two unsuccessful rounds recruitment, I don't think it's a matter of "falling through the cracks". I don't mean to sound unkind, but that is something that people say to make others feel better. Once, it might be the case, if there was some error in entering info into the computer, or perhaps you had the same or similar name as another PNM, but not twice.
You say that you have a lot of friends in the sororities - have you asked them for honest opinions on how you come across? Obviously not during recruitment, but they might be able to let you know where you might be able to spruce things up (conversation skills, putting forward a polished look, improve grades or participation on campus).
Some questions that might help us help you:
At which rounds were you cut?
Did you have any parties left at any point that you didn't attend?
What is your GPA?
Do you belong to other clubs or activities?