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Originally Posted by excelblue
First thing I have to say is: ouch.
Just like what the others have said, each fraternity has their own rules on what's legit and not. However, I do have to say that I felt the reason was perfectly legit in the sense that you just don't quite seem to be the type of person they're looking for. Fraternities are not all-accepting clubs, and you have to actually fit in.
What basically happened is that they probably didn't find out enough about you during rush (this is very common especially with the way several fraternities do it), so they gave you a bid. Then, during the pledging process, they didn't see you as a good fit. If they had been more careful, they probably shouldn't have given you a bid in the first place.
In any case, if you're really not up to fixing that not outgoing enough thing, just take a look at some other fraternities in the spring. You might find one that's a better fit.
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I've learned, through GC, since PanHell was strictly, 'no guys' and their Rush was a mystery to us, that Sorority Rush was so intense, that they could get a very good view into the PNM and whether she was a good fit.
Fraternity Rush has always been much more laid back, and so we had much less insight into the Rushee. Many houses, mine included, would give bids to guys who looked like a good fit, even if they weren't the classic Fraternity Guy, think Stork in Animal House. Almost always, they were great guys and it worked out well, but every semester, a few pledge pins were pulled for various reasons. It was always sad and the meetings went on forever, since their big brother always stood up for them, but we aren't the dorm, and a certain percentage was needed to go on.
Happily, a few of these guys found another house where they were a better fit, and I hope that they are as happy in their new home as I am in mine.