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Originally Posted by SunDevilGreek
I'm not sure there's anything I can really do about this, but what do you all think? I'm really upset about the whole thing.
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I understand where you're coming from. You're right; there's really not much you can or even
should do about it, but it certainly does hurt.
When I initiated, "adoptions" were the anomaly. But shortly after Initiation, one of my pledge sisters relinquished her membership, and another pledge sister's Big relinquished hers as well--so the abandoned Big and Little adopted each other. I felt a little ripped off, to be honest, because the abandoned Big was my first choice for a Big. Anyway... later on in college, the 2nd of my two Littles, with whom I had the closer relationship, relinquished her membership. Her little--my GrandLittle--, even though she'd been a full initiated member for several years, decided to be adopted by someone else. This actually hurt me a whole lot, because I was still very active in the chapter as a senior. To this day, even though it's not all that important in the grand scheme of things, I'm still a little hurt by my GLil's choice to be adopted.
Long story short, I think it would be worth mentioning your feelings to your Little. True, it may not be the end of the world if she chooses to take another Big, and it wouldn't necessarily be the end of your friendship (certainly not your sisterhood!), and it might even be a good idea for her to take another Big because you're no longer at the same school (especially if it's within her first year of joining). But still... I think you owe it to yourself to express your feelings, and you owe it to your Little to fill her in, as well.
Best of luck!!