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So there's a lot going on in this thread, let me make a few things clear.
1. Yes family trees would be rearranged if she took a new big (the ones that are proposing taking her, anyway)
2. She is definitely AGAINST the idea of having a new big, these girls are trying to coerce her into it. Don't get me wrong, they're not banging down her door or anything, but she's sort of the type of person that gets talked into things easily. I'm not angry at her AT ALL for any of this, nor do I actually think she would ever get a new big. I'm upset with the girls that are seriously considering taking her as a little. I mean quite frankly it's just rude.
3. I'm an awesome big. I took her in her freshman year (she's a junior now) and I've helped her through everything (not just initiation) that's come up in her life. Parents, school, boy drama, etc. Now that I'm gone I send her care packages, we talk almost everyday, and I'm flying out for her 21st this winter. I'm honestly doing everything I can to be as good a big as I can be while she's on the other side of the country.
4. Finally, this isn't a possessive thing. My little is my best friend- if she takes another big, that's like breaking the bond that brought us together. I know some people aren't very close with their bigs, and maybe in some chapters the big/little relationship is for initiation mostly. Everyone in my chapter puts a huge emphasis on the big/little relationship, so that's why them moving in on her is so hurtful. BECAUSE IT'S A BIG DEAL.
Thanks so much for all your comments, I needed insight.
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